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  • Facing Financial Uncertainty
    • Making Ends Meet
    • Managing Debt
    • Create A Plan To Communicate with Your Creditors
    • Communicate With Your Creditors
    • Plan Your Spending
  • Financial Assessment
    • Assessing the Financial Costs of Using
    • Maintain Organized Financial Records
    • Manage Cash Flow and Build Net Worth
    • What Are My Life Needs?
    • Identify My Life Needs
    • Plan Your Spending
    • Use Credit Wisely
    • Maintain Adequate Insurance Coverage
    • Manage Savings and Investments Wisely
    • Criteria for Selecting Savings and Investments
    • Types of Savings and Investments
    • Maintain Your Pre-Retirement Lifestyle During Retirement
    • Pay Necessary Taxes But No More
    • Create and Maintain A Current Estate Plan
    • Own a Business – Practice Management Assessment
  • Financial Worksheets
    • Cost of Substance Use For One Year Inventory
    • My Life Needs
    • Cash Flow Inventory
    • Net Worth Inventory
    • Sources of Income Inventory
    • Spending Tracker Inventory
    • Types of Expenses
    • How Does My Spending Compare?
    • How Much Do I Owe – Debt Inventory
    • Insurance Inventory
    • Savings and Investment Inventory
    • Location of Important Records
    • Personal and Family Information
    • Professional and Personal Advisers
  • Moving Beyond Losses
    • My Life! Create-Fund- Enjoy
    • Use Family Genogram to Observe Family Functioning Patterns
    • The Decades of My LIfe And How They Have Shaped How I Do What I Do
    • How We Form What We Do
    • Subsystems of the Non-Physical Self
    • What Was My Part?
    • Use My Creative Capacity to Find My Way Through Any Difficulty
    • At Peace or Disturbed
    • Forming How We Meet Our Life Needs
    • Choices and Consequences
    • Not satisfied – what next?
  • About Addiction

Impact of Addiction on Family and Finances

Consciously Form What We Do To Create Positive Financial Outcomes

  • Home
  • About Me
  • Facing Financial Uncertainty
    • Making Ends Meet
    • Managing Debt
    • Create A Plan To Communicate with Your Creditors
    • Communicate With Your Creditors
    • Plan Your Spending
  • Financial Assessment
    • Assessing the Financial Costs of Using
    • Maintain Organized Financial Records
    • Manage Cash Flow and Build Net Worth
    • What Are My Life Needs?
    • Identify My Life Needs
    • Plan Your Spending
    • Use Credit Wisely
    • Maintain Adequate Insurance Coverage
    • Manage Savings and Investments Wisely
    • Criteria for Selecting Savings and Investments
    • Types of Savings and Investments
    • Maintain Your Pre-Retirement Lifestyle During Retirement
    • Pay Necessary Taxes But No More
    • Create and Maintain A Current Estate Plan
    • Own a Business – Practice Management Assessment
  • Financial Worksheets
    • Cost of Substance Use For One Year Inventory
    • My Life Needs
    • Cash Flow Inventory
    • Net Worth Inventory
    • Sources of Income Inventory
    • Spending Tracker Inventory
    • Types of Expenses
    • How Does My Spending Compare?
    • How Much Do I Owe – Debt Inventory
    • Insurance Inventory
    • Savings and Investment Inventory
    • Location of Important Records
    • Personal and Family Information
    • Professional and Personal Advisers
  • Moving Beyond Losses
    • My Life! Create-Fund- Enjoy
    • Use Family Genogram to Observe Family Functioning Patterns
    • The Decades of My LIfe And How They Have Shaped How I Do What I Do
    • How We Form What We Do
    • Subsystems of the Non-Physical Self
    • What Was My Part?
    • Use My Creative Capacity to Find My Way Through Any Difficulty
    • At Peace or Disturbed
    • Forming How We Meet Our Life Needs
    • Choices and Consequences
    • Not satisfied – what next?
  • About Addiction

What Was My Part?

How Did Each Person Involved Show Up In an Interaction?

Take a look at an event that that has occurred in a relationship in your life in which you did not get what you wanted.  Take a look at how you did what you did in the transaction.

  • What was the stimulus (the situation) that created the transaction?  Describe what happened that created the transaction.
  • Who were the participants involved?
  • What was the purpose of the transaction?
    • What was the need?  
    • Who had the need? – I/Self/Me, You, We
    • Who identified and defined the need?
    • Was the need identified and defined by one person or by all involved?
    • Was this a need or an expectation to get a specific outcome?
  • Who created the transaction? 
    • What was my part in creating the transaction?
    • Did others involved participate in creating the transaction?
    • Were all involved included from the beginning to the end of the transaction?
  • What was the solution?    
    • What was my part in forming and defining the solution to fill the need?  
    • What was the other person’s part in forming and defining the solution to fill the need?
    • Were all involved included in identifying and defining the solution to fill the need?
  • Describe the actions were taken?
    • What action did I take?
    • What action did others involved take?
    • Was each person involved in the transaction included or excluded from the beginning to the end of the transaction?
  • What were the consequences?
    • Was your need met?
    • Were the needs of others met?  
    • How was the presence of each person valued?
    • Were the needs of each person valued equally?
    • Was someone valued more than another – put on a pedestal?
    • Was someone valued less than another -discounted?
  • How did each person involved feel about the outcome?
    • Were you satisfied with the outcome?
    • Were the others involved satisfied with the outcome?
    • Were most or all involved satisfied with the outcome?
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About Esther

Esther Maddux

Hi! I’m Esther – Resource Management Consultant.  Join me in discussing family and financial issues related to substance abuse and addiction.

 

Esther Maddux Counseling Services

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