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    • What Are My Life Needs?
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    • Cost of Substance Use For One Year Inventory
    • My Life Needs
    • Cash Flow Inventory
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    • Subsystems of the Non-Physical Self
    • What Was My Part?
    • Use My Creative Capacity to Find My Way Through Any Difficulty
    • At Peace or Disturbed
    • Forming How We Meet Our Life Needs
    • Choices and Consequences
    • Not satisfied – what next?
  • About Addiction

Impact of Addiction on Family and Finances

Consciously Form What We Do To Create Positive Financial Outcomes

  • Home
  • About Me
  • Facing Financial Uncertainty
    • Making Ends Meet
    • Managing Debt
    • Create A Plan To Communicate with Your Creditors
    • Communicate With Your Creditors
    • Plan Your Spending
  • Financial Assessment
    • Assessing the Financial Costs of Using
    • Maintain Organized Financial Records
    • Manage Cash Flow and Build Net Worth
    • What Are My Life Needs?
    • Identify My Life Needs
    • Plan Your Spending
    • Use Credit Wisely
    • Maintain Adequate Insurance Coverage
    • Manage Savings and Investments Wisely
    • Criteria for Selecting Savings and Investments
    • Types of Savings and Investments
    • Maintain Your Pre-Retirement Lifestyle During Retirement
    • Pay Necessary Taxes But No More
    • Create and Maintain A Current Estate Plan
    • Own a Business – Practice Management Assessment
  • Financial Worksheets
    • Cost of Substance Use For One Year Inventory
    • My Life Needs
    • Cash Flow Inventory
    • Net Worth Inventory
    • Sources of Income Inventory
    • Spending Tracker Inventory
    • Types of Expenses
    • How Does My Spending Compare?
    • How Much Do I Owe – Debt Inventory
    • Insurance Inventory
    • Savings and Investment Inventory
    • Location of Important Records
    • Personal and Family Information
    • Professional and Personal Advisers
  • Moving Beyond Losses
    • My Life! Create-Fund- Enjoy
    • Use Family Genogram to Observe Family Functioning Patterns
    • The Decades of My LIfe And How They Have Shaped How I Do What I Do
    • How We Form What We Do
    • Subsystems of the Non-Physical Self
    • What Was My Part?
    • Use My Creative Capacity to Find My Way Through Any Difficulty
    • At Peace or Disturbed
    • Forming How We Meet Our Life Needs
    • Choices and Consequences
    • Not satisfied – what next?
  • About Addiction

Satisfied?

By the law of nature, we have the creative capacity within ourselves to identify, define and take the action to form what we do to fill our life needs to keep our individual lives moving in good orderly direction.  We can join with others to fill common needs.  The quality of the way we from what we do as individuals and how we connect with others influences whether we feel dissatisfied or satisfied with our lives. 

If we are dissatisfied with a situation, we can take a look at what we did or didn’t do that created the outcome we experienced.    

What was the source of the need – who had the need that started the interaction?

  • Can be an idea that we have
  • Can be from an external source

Who was involved or impacted and when?

  • At what point, was each person involved?
  • Was each person involved included from the beginning to the end?
  • Was someone impacted that was not directly involved?  If so, who and how?

Where was the focus of attention of each person involved? 

  • On one’s self          
  • On the other person involved
  • On those impacted 

Did each involved clarify his or her intention?

  • Was each person involved allowed to identify his or her intention (need)?
  • Was the common need of the group (all involved and impacted) considered?

Did each involved participate in planning the solution?

  • Did each person involved contribute their thoughts and feelings to plan the solution and define the roles?
  • Was each person involved allowed to define what he or she was willing to do to meet the need?
  • When was each person allowed to define what he or she was willing to do to meet the need?
  • Was each person willing to particpate or was someone doing something that went against his or her will? (resentment)

Did each person own his or her part to take the action to fill the need in a way that was mutually satisfying for all involved?

  • Did each person involved own or consciously delegate his or her part in doing their part to meet the need?
  • Did anyone involved unconsciously assume or transfer his or her part?

What was the outcome?  Review – What Next?  Stop, start, correct, maintain

  • Was each person accountable for their part in meeting the need?   Did they deny or project accountability?
  • What was the outcome?  Was the need met in way that was mutually satisfying to all involved?
  • What happens next?  
    • If we are not satisfied and do nothing differently, then nothing changes. 
    • Sometimes we need to stop doing what we are doing. 
    • Sometimes we need to start doing something. 
    • Sometimes we need to make a change and correct what we doing to get a better result.
    • Sometimes we are making good progress and can continue doing what we are doing. 
  • If I am not satisfied, I can stop what I am currently doing to see if there is something I can do to get a better outcome.
  • I consider the opinions of others involved when determining what to do next.
  • If we keep doing the same thing over and over, we will keep getting the same result. If we want a different result, we can change what we are doing.

Knowing what we value, voicing what we need, being clear about what we are willing and not willing to do and doing our part can help us find our way through the good and the “not so good” events of our lives.  

 

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About Esther

Esther Maddux

Hi! I’m Esther – Resource Management Consultant.  Join me in discussing family and financial issues related to substance abuse and addiction.

 

Esther Maddux Counseling Services

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