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Impact of Addiction on Family and Finances

Consciously Form What We Do To Create Positive Financial Outcomes

  • Home
  • About Me
  • Facing Financial Uncertainty
    • Making Ends Meet
    • Managing Debt
    • Create A Plan To Communicate with Your Creditors
    • Communicate With Your Creditors
    • Plan Your Spending
  • Financial Assessment
    • Assessing the Financial Costs of Using
    • Maintain Organized Financial Records
    • Manage Cash Flow and Build Net Worth
    • What Are My Life Needs?
    • Identify My Life Needs
    • Plan Your Spending
    • Use Credit Wisely
    • Maintain Adequate Insurance Coverage
    • Manage Savings and Investments Wisely
    • Criteria for Selecting Savings and Investments
    • Types of Savings and Investments
    • Maintain Your Pre-Retirement Lifestyle During Retirement
    • Pay Necessary Taxes But No More
    • Create and Maintain A Current Estate Plan
    • Own a Business – Practice Management Assessment
  • Financial Worksheets
    • Cost of Substance Use For One Year Inventory
    • My Life Needs
    • Cash Flow Inventory
    • Net Worth Inventory
    • Sources of Income Inventory
    • Spending Tracker Inventory
    • Types of Expenses
    • How Does My Spending Compare?
    • How Much Do I Owe – Debt Inventory
    • Insurance Inventory
    • Savings and Investment Inventory
    • Location of Important Records
    • Personal and Family Information
    • Professional and Personal Advisers
  • Moving Beyond Losses
    • My Life! Create-Fund- Enjoy
    • Use Family Genogram to Observe Family Functioning Patterns
    • The Decades of My LIfe And How They Have Shaped How I Do What I Do
    • How We Form What We Do
    • Subsystems of the Non-Physical Self
    • What Was My Part?
    • Use My Creative Capacity to Find My Way Through Any Difficulty
    • At Peace or Disturbed
    • Forming How We Meet Our Life Needs
    • Choices and Consequences
    • Not satisfied – what next?
  • About Addiction

How We Form What We Do

How Placement of Presence, Power, and Energy in Transactions

Impacts Quality of Life Outcomes

Each person has the creative capacity within one’s self to solve every problem to fill every life need..

We are each born with a physical self and a non-physical self.  The physical self, the human body, runs automatically if we provide it with food, water, exercise, and sleep.  The human body is the physical container that houses the components of the non-physical self that we use to do what we do to create our daily lives.

We create our lives by how we form and express the non-physical self.  We are each born with the creative capacity to form how we live our lives.  We learned how to form our creative capacity by responding to what went on around us in our family of origin and in the community around us.  The way we learned to form what we do influences how we do what we do today.  

The way we do the things we do determines the outcomes we get in our lives.  If we have good things happen in our lives, then how we form what we do is in good balance.  If we have not-so-good things happen in our lives then how we form what we do might be out of balance and require some adjustments to get better outcomes in our lives.

We can observe how each individual forms his/her creative capacity to form behavior.  If we are not getting the results we want with our lives, we can observe how form our creative capacity to see where it is out of balance.  Once we recognize the imbalances, we can rebalance how we form what we do to manage ourselves and relate to others in healthier ways.

Just like we use letters to form words and use numbers to solve math problems, we use components of behavior to form what we do when creating our lives.  When we were young, we learned to develop words with letters:

A  B C  D  E F  G  H I  J  K L  M  N O  P  Q R  S  T U  V  W X  Y  Z

We learned to solve math problems using numbers:

1  2 3  4  5 6  7  8 9  0

We also learned how to form and express who we are in the world around us by using the physical and non-physical self to fill our life needs.  Today when we repeat the early pattern of behavior we learned when functioning in our family of origin, it may lead to “not-so-good” outcomes.  If we are not happy with the outcomes we are getting in our life, we can pay attention to what we do.  We can observe how we form what we do.  We can change the behavior formations that are not working for us to get better outcomes in all the area of our lives.

The physical self and the non-physical self work together to form the whole self.

                        Physical Self + Non-Physical Self = Whole Self

The physical self has systems that keep the body functioning.  The circulatory system keeps blood flowing to all the body parts.  The respiratory system keeps air flowing in and out of the body.  The digestive system allows food and hydration to flow in and out of the body to nourish the body.  The reproductive system gives us the potential to continue the process of life.  The endocrine system regulates body functioning.

Just as the physical self has systems that keep the body functioning, the non-physical body has systems.  We use our non-physical system to form our connection internally within our self and externally with other people, places, and things.  We manage ourselves and relate to other people, places, and things (including money) through the way we use our non-physical system to connect our selves with the outside world. The connector we use to go within to connect to our inner most self to form what we do and connect in interactions with other people places and things is sometimes called spirit.  Spirit can be broken into three components.  The three components are presence, power, and energy.

By the law of nature, each individual has the capacity to activate and direct how he or she uses presence, power, and energy to express the self and connect with others to fill life needs.  With addiction, the ownership of expression of power and energy gets displaced from its original source to an external source which leads to imbalances in how personal interchanges are formed.  When imbalances repeat over and over, relationships can get stuck in patterns that cause harm to all involved.

A behavioral best practice is to begin to observe how we place our power and energy in personal interactions and observe the outcome of the exchanges. This section of website provides tools to observe how presence, power, and energy are expressed in the systems of the non-physical self when forming what we do to create our lives.

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About Esther

Esther Maddux

Hi! I’m Esther – Resource Management Consultant.  Join me in discussing family and financial issues related to substance abuse and addiction.

 

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